How do I keep my sanity, my marriage and my family intact through all of this?
Lisa, who is following this blog, left a comment re: her family and how she can’t get them to understand what she is going through. She asks, “Does anyone out there have any advice to how to keep my sanity, marriage and family intact through all of this?”
Lisa, I hear you! Not all families and friends are as supportive and understanding as my fellow maniac’s family. As I have mentioned before, I think most of my friends are in denial, although I do have one friend who admits her hormones are probably way out of wack but she is determined to get through it without Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy (BHRT). (She also doesn’t understand why I would pay for BodyLogicMD, instead of going to my regular doctor, through Kaiser.)
My husband, who I am sure is in “menopause,” admits it, but he is proud of it and of the fact that he, as a man, can actually deal with it…not taking into consideration how it affects his life (and his wife!)
So this is how I deal with it:
1) I follow my program which is helping me to become more even keeled emotionally and allows me to get through my day without crying, screaming or killing someone
2) I exercise, which I now have the energy to do, and it helps me to relieve stress, plus it releases those endorphins and just makes me feel good about doing something for ME!
3) I pray; I ask God to give me the patience, compassion and strength to love those who it seems sometimes don’t love me (and I am thankful that, before BodyLogicMD, when I was not lovable -they still loved me)
Basically I just focus on getting balanced, because ultimately this will benefit not only me but everyone around me. I keep on doing what I need to do, in order to move forward during this part of my life. Yes, it would be nice if my family was more supportive, but it doesn’t really matter right now, because I feel pretty darn good these days.
Lisa, you have spent your adult life taking care of your husband and children, now it is time to take care of yourself! It would be nice if your family was supportive, but so what if they are not…just do what you need to do…you are worth it and ultimately, as you progress in your BHRT program, you will change, they WILL notice a difference, and then you can forgive them, personally, for being so insensitive.