How do I keep my sanity, my marriage and my family intact through all of this?

Lisa, who is following this blog, left a comment re: her family and how she can’t get them to understand what she is going through. She asks, “Does anyone out there have any advice to how to keep my sanity, marriage and family intact through all of this?”

Lisa, I hear you! Not all families and friends are as supportive and understanding as my fellow maniac’s family. As I have mentioned before, I think most of my friends are in denial, although I do have one friend who admits her hormones are probably way out of wack but she is determined to get through it without Bioidentical Hormone Replacement Therapy (BHRT). (She also doesn’t understand why I would pay for BodyLogicMD, instead of going to my regular doctor, through Kaiser.)

My husband, who I am sure is in “menopause,” admits it, but he is proud of it and of the fact that he, as a man, can actually deal with it…not taking into consideration how it affects his life (and his wife!)

So this is how I deal with it:

1)      I follow my program which is helping me to become more even keeled emotionally and allows me to get through my day without crying, screaming or killing someone

2)      I exercise, which I now have the energy to do, and it helps me to relieve stress, plus it releases those endorphins and just makes me feel good about doing something for ME!

3)      I pray; I ask God to give me the patience, compassion and strength to love those who it seems sometimes don’t love me (and I am thankful that, before BodyLogicMD, when I was not lovable -they still loved me)

Basically I just focus on getting balanced, because ultimately this will benefit not only me but everyone around me. I keep on doing what I need to do, in order to move forward during this part of my life. Yes, it would be nice if my family was more supportive, but it doesn’t really matter right now, because I feel pretty darn good these days.

Lisa, you have spent your adult life taking care of your husband and children, now it is time to take care of yourself! It would be nice if your family was supportive, but so what if they are not…just do what you need to do…you are worth it and ultimately, as you progress in your BHRT program, you will change, they WILL notice a difference, and then you can forgive them, personally, for being so insensitive.

 

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  • Lily

    Now that you mentioned it, none of my friends have any symptoms
    of menopause. Not even one! They are the lucky ones that do not get any symptoms or have even started menopause yet! (why is it so hard to admit? Is it fear of getting old?)

     
     
     
  • Diane

    I don’t know why it is so hard for some women (and men!) to admit that they are going through it. Are you sure they don’t have any symptoms or are they just good at hiding it 🙂

     
     
     
  • karen

    Can anyone help me make sense of it all, I am losing everything and I feel I can’t go on

     
     
     
  • Monica

    Karen,

    I am so sorry you are suffering. Have you spoken to your doctor? I think you need to make an appointment ASAP.

    Please keep us posted.

    Monica

     
     
     
  • HELLO. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY WIFE FOR ABOUT FOUR YEARS AND KNOW WE HAVE SPLIT UP AND I BEEN READING UP ON MENOPAUSE BECAUSE I BELEIVE THAT IS WHAT SHE HAS. SHE IS ACTING JUST THE WAY TO SAY, SHE HAS HOT FLASHES, FORGETS, BICHTIE, SHE SNAPE REAL EASY AND I HAVE KNOW I DEAL WHAT TO DO I HAVE TOLL HER THAT I LOVE HER FOR WHO SHE IS, AND I AM WILLING TO GO THROUGH THIS WITH, SO I CAN HELP I WOULD DO THING LIKE CLEAN THE HOUSE DO THE DISHIES OR JUST DO ANYTHING SO SHE DOSE NOT HAVE. HELP WHAT TO DO. I DO NOT WANT TO LOSE HER SHE THE MOST INPORTEN PERSON IN MY LIFE AND SHE SAY THAT SHE NEEDS TIME AND SPACE AND I HAVE BEEN DOING THAT IT IS NOT EASY. THANKS CHUCK